Sometimes you hear lyrics from a song that you listen to often and something just strikes you. You hear it in a way you hadn’t before and today it was Dave Matthews saying “and what I need is all around me”. Think about that for just a second and then we’ll move on.
It’s been a year for me, to say the least. So much has changed and I’m good with that, and one of the lessons I’ve learned most (and yes, it’s taken a lot of work during the darker times) is to focus on gratitude. Yes, things sometimes are great and then all of a sudden turn to shit. People leave our lives, people come into our lives, money ebbs and flows, and directions turn on us before we even have a chance to put a signal on and get prepared. It’s easy to get angry, I do it. It’s easy to complain, we all do it. But at the end of the day, believe me, there are millions of people in this world that would give anything they could to live one day in your shoes.
When I was listening to this line of the song a few times, I started to think about some people I come across that tend to focus more on what they don’t have versus what they actually DO have. Again, all normal, we’ve all done it but when you take some time to really look around and evaluate, I’ll bet anyone would find that they’ve actually got everything they need, just perhaps not in the traditional way that they may expect it to be there.
Here’s what I mean. I have friends that are unattached, with no real significant other in their lives. Perhaps they’re post-divorce, or between relationships, or have never really found “the one” who loves them truly and conditionally. They harp on it, get upset about it, worry about it and yet when they look more deeply, they find that they (just like me) have an amazing circle of friends who tell them they love them regularly. Who will do anything for them. Who surprise them. Who hold their hand when they’re sad, listen without judgement and always have their back. It’s just not in the form of a partner in that sense, but when they look deeper they see they have that feeling and those bonds with loved ones in some way.
Or, consider those who never feel satisfied with what they’re earning. I mean, really, is it EVER enough? It’s normal and natural to want to strive, even when we’re rocking it financially. We crave more, we feel like we deserve more and sometimes we let money rule our lives. Again, normal. We all need it to live and to be able to do some of the things we love. Look deeper though and guess what? If they’re reading this it or anything else online, they have a computer, an internet connection, most likely a roof over their head, food to eat, a job that hopefully they love (but may not) yet still it’s a job, and they’re way ahead of so many others. Goals are great, goals are necessary, but it’s equally as necessary to pause and see exactly what you’ve already done and appreciate what that has brought you.
I have always believed that where you are right now is exactly where you’re supposed to be. Bad times lead to good, dark days lead to strength, pain leads to endurance and confidence- feel it all, go through it, let it run through you but try (and I know it’s hard) to always find a way to push past it regularly even if it’s just for a few minutes and look at what you DO have versus what you DON’T and you’ll find it’s really all there. Just perhaps in a slightly different way that you’ve expected it to be.